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Showing posts with label Expect the Best. Show all posts
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Thursday, March 5, 2015
Thursday, May 8, 2014
NBA: Great Man In Basketball! Kevin Durant's MVP Acceptance Speech! Happy Mother's Day!
After weeks of humiliating headlines about a lot of reprehensible behavior in people in the field of professional sports, Mr. Durant's acceptance speech for his award as Most Valuable Player washes over the viewer like a fresh spring shower!" What a proud mother she must be. What a lovely and humble son... Wow! Sharing this as a hopeful treat to all mothers and sons everywhere... just in time for Mother's Day.
Friday, August 31, 2012
The Changing American Family: Series of Videos from the New School via FORA.TV
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Monday, November 22, 2010
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Saturday, July 3, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
Whew! Times... They Are a 'Changin'... Empty Nesting Prep 101-A
Fascinating phase of life... Our youngest (her daughterness) asked me a few weeks ago: "Mom, what are you going to do without me?" (Half of parenting is deciding when it is ok to laugh and when it ISN'T!) I reflected "Well, that is hard to imagine... I will have a lot of trouble knowing when the light turns green, which way to turn, how to set the table and pour the milk and ..."
I love the fact that she sees the world from her 17 year old perspective! She is incredibly sweet and thoughtful, while she retains the fervor and teenager central focus- that piece which is so absolutely necessary for successfully launching... We'll see... So far, so good... In the meantime, we are repainting our little soon-to-be-empty nest and I really am thinking that I may well need help in order to know when the light turns green... and so it goes... :-)
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
How Do We Instill Hope?
When will we figure out a way to prepare our children for the skill set they will need to deal with the predictable conflictual issues which are inherent in dealing with their schoolmates, their future partner and their future children? The major problem lies in the fact that they are caught unaware, unprepared and therefore, incredibly vulnerable. The real tragedy is that if we could prepare them with a few simple realizations, they would be well on their way to preparing themselves and learning skills as simply as fastening our seatbelts, flossing our teeth and checking our blind spots... (Sigh) Spread the idea...
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
We All Need One of These! The Archetype of Saving the Day Serves a Purpose
Whenever it was, as very little people, that we were first introduced to the concept of "Superheroes, " guys with capes, flying mice who circled the globe, masked riders on white horses, and others of this genre- it planted a notion in our brain of rescuers and rescuees. There is a lot of fun and wonder to be had with these images. The risk is when we start to believe that we are actually in either of these roles. I have heard women lament about wanting to be rescued, taken care of, be relieved of the burden of having to take care of themselves. Wellll... learning how to take care of ourselves is part of what we were supposed to learn and relish... If we missed the lesson earlier, it's okay to learn it later. It's a trip! It can be fun, exciting, freeing. Try it... and it's okay to bring your trepidation with you... and your cape!
Monday, February 15, 2010
Looking at Sweet Faces Raises Mood and Decreases Blood Pressure
What a lovely way to start the Monday morning... Enjoy this cute face, make a wish, say a prayer, write down a Gratitude List, smile at ten people, wave at everyone at traffic lights, leave messages for people you appreciate, think about funny YouTube videos, kiss your spouse and any children who will allow it, sing a song, bop to the music in the car... These are all tools to lift your mood, boost the amount of seratonin and dopamine flowing through your bloodstream, lower your blood pressure, raise your galvanic skin response (now, THAT'S a great piece of news!) and contribute to your overall good health.
Monday, February 8, 2010
Genomes Are Beautiful!
What a lovely helix! It's amazing what a difference one tiny little peptide can do... If you are feeling a bit dazzled, think abut the cones and rods in your eyes... I wish that our educational system would highlight the fun and beauty of discovering science and make it come "alive!" It is almost as if their mission statement is "Hunt it down and beat every lovin' piece of fun and wonderment out of it!"
Friday, January 29, 2010
reBlog from annyjacoby.wordpress.com: Anny Jacoby, Personal Safety Expert
I found this fascinating quote today:
You should read the whole article.
The most common, persistent and intrusive of all stalkers, the rejected stalker is obsessed with someone who is a former romantic partner or friend, and who has ended their relationship with the stalker, or indicates that he or she intends to end the relationship. Depending on the responses of the victim, the stalkers goals will vary, and the rejected stalker usually struggles with the complex desire for both reconciliation and revenge. As Mullen writes, ”A sense of loss could be combined with frustration, anger, jealousy, vindictiveness, and sadness in ever-changing proportions.” This stalker may be very narcissistic, and may feel humiliated by the rejection. In most cases, they will have poor social skills and a poor social network. They are also the most likely to try to harm the victim in some way, and may employ intimidation and assault in their pursuit. They may become jealous if their victim enters or continues a romantic relationship with another person. A history of violence in the relationship with the partner is not uncommon.annyjacoby.wordpress.com, Anny Jacoby, Personal Safety Expert, Jan 2010
You should read the whole article.
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