Well, sometimes the best way to talk about the most serious of topics is with the lightest of voices, the kindest of tones... Pair these with gentle and invited touch... Enclose your heart and the message is very likely to be heard...
Family "orogamies" are tricky and elusive. Over these last years, I have enjoyed getting the "knits" out... and these are some of the most courageous and wonderful of people (particularly the parents) of any that I have known... It is a bold step to put yourselves out there, acknowledge you're out of your depth, you have got yourselves all tangled up... and you love your spouse, your children, your family... enough to get your tootsies out there... Now, THAT takes GUTS! These families are amazing... and a lot of fun to work with... because they are sufficiently miserable... and that is a great motivator to "think different."