Showing posts with label The Gift of Fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label The Gift of Fear. Show all posts

Friday, January 29, 2010

Katie Couric Speaks With Teen Violence Victims


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reBlog from annyjacoby.wordpress.com: Anny Jacoby, Personal Safety Expert

I found this fascinating quote today:


The most common, persistent and intrusive of all stalkers, the rejected stalker is obsessed with someone who is a former romantic partner or friend, and  who has ended their relationship with the stalker, or indicates that he or she intends to end the relationship.  Depending on the responses of the victim, the stalkers goals will vary, and the rejected stalker usually struggles with the complex desire for both reconciliation and revenge.   As Mullen writes,  ”A sense of loss could be combined with frustration, anger, jealousy, vindictiveness, and sadness in ever-changing proportions.”  This stalker may be very narcissistic, and may feel humiliated by the rejection.  In most cases, they will have poor social skills and  a poor social network.  They are also the most likely to try to harm the victim in some way, and may employ intimidation and assault in their pursuit.  They may become jealous if their victim enters or continues a romantic relationship with another person.  A history of violence in the relationship with the partner is not uncommon.annyjacoby.wordpress.com, Anny Jacoby, Personal Safety Expert, Jan 2010


You should read the whole article.

Friday, October 10, 2008

Safety for Our Daughters/Our Sons and Ourselves


How can we name these dangers for our girls? How shall we convey a spirit of optimism while we teach our children the skill set with which they can ascertain dangers? Some of the best resources yet discovered are Gavin DeBecker's site and book, "Protecting the Gift: How to Keep Children and Teens Safe and Parents Sane."
Mr. DeBecker narrates the second book, himself, so if you can find it on CD, it is definitely the way to go. His voice is dispassionate, but his tone is quite serious while he makes the point that if we are afraid all of the time, we become less safe. He focuses on the strengths of the "wild brain," and says that we are too overly compliant with strangers' requests. That avoidance of being reluctant to not "give someone the benefit of the doubt" can be very dangerous. This is mandatory reading/listening for parents around here...