Saturday, November 22, 2014
Canadian Hockey Fans Sing the US National Anthem When the Microphone Fails At the Maple Leaf/Predator Game! # Sportsmanship, Eh?
Monday, November 10, 2014
Busting "Shared Parenting" Myths: Decision Trees in Custody Evaluations and Clinical Interventions... Coming Up This Friday, November 14, 2014!!
LIVE TWITTER FEED TO TWEET YOUR COMMENTS AND QUESTIONS STARTING AT 8:30 AM THIS FRIDAY MORNING!! PLEASE JOIN US "LIVE" IF YOU CAN- CEU'S AVAILABLE!!
Sunday, November 9, 2014
"The Science of Neglect" is a Brief Video from the Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University: Brain Architecture's "Ground Zero"
This it the first of a series about the impact of neglect on our babies and young children. Neglect is the most common type of child maltreatment in the United States. It literally causes an immediate change in the development of the child's brain architecture and thus, alters the lifelong trajectory of their health and well being. Our community pays a huge price when we endanger the well being of our children- whether or not they are a part of our biological or familial relationship circle. The Center for on the Developing Child is a fantastic resource, to which I often return for updates and encouragement from my pediatric/public health "roots." :)) Happy Sunday!
Sunday, November 2, 2014
"Busting 'Shared Parenting' Myths: The Use of Decision Trees in Evaluations & Interventions," Coming November 14th, 2014 to the Biltmore Hotel, Santa Clara, CA
"Busting 'Shared Parenting' Myths: Decision Trees in Evaluations & Interventions," w/ Dr. Nancy Olesen, PhD 11/14/14! pic.twitter.com/nzQjw4HVYA
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Today, I am finishing up the galleys for "Busting 'Shared Parenting' Myths: The Use of Decision Trees in Evaluations & Interventions," our November 14th conference at the Biltmore in Santa Clara! We are delighted to feature Dr. Nancy Olesen, PhD as our Keynote Speaker. We are grateful and honored to welcome the Honorable Susan Bernadini, Presiding Judge of the Family Law Bar, onto our judicial panel, which will also include Judge Michael Clark, Judge Mary Ann Grilli and Judge Mary Greenwood. We will be challenging our 3 sets of panelists with questions about "how to" practical applications of the thorniest issues we have gathered from our "front line experts:" our interdisciplinary colleagues, members from Family Court Services, and the thousands of families we serve every year! There will also be a special update from the AFCC International Task Force on Shared Parenting! An international literature review will be presented (and available) in your materials. Continuing Education Units of all varieties available for lawyers and mental health professionals. Hope to see you there!
Saturday, October 4, 2014
Short PSA Highlighting Trafficking of Human Children Being Shown Here in the Bay Area... Increase Awareness & Together, We Can Save These Children, Women and Men Who Are Currently Enslaved in the USA
When Little Baby Elephant Stumbles, Both of Her Parents Come Running, Followed by the Whole Herd of Helpers!
Tuesday, September 30, 2014
Know It 2 Own It Rebecca Cokley, National Council on Disability- Such an Articulate Representative of the Disability Rights Community!
Sunday, September 28, 2014
Sunday, August 10, 2014
"Gender Violence Issues" Are Men's Issues - We Need to Stop Giving Men an Excuse to Not Pay Attention- Thank you, Jackson Katz
Wednesday, July 23, 2014
"How do I talk to my child?" "I haven't ever taken a parenting class. My parents never really talked to me. I don't know what to say." "I turned out okay." Suggestions? 1. Ask their advice. 2. Ask them to show you how to do something. 3. Offer to tell them the "Top Ten Things I Love About You." And... just in case, here are a few more... straight from the REAL experts :)
Monday, July 21, 2014
As of January, 2014, there were 33,000 phishing attacks per month, worldwide. Phishing is defined as trying to access information by pretending to be a trustworthy source through an electronic transmission. (Think of it as that wolf dressed up in the red hooded cape standing at the door saying "I am little Red Riding Hood! Please open the door?")
It has been suggested that most of us are only slowly waking up to how terribly vulnerable we are to "spammers," "scammers," "spoofers," "phishers," "smishers," "spearphishers" and "whalers." Yes, those are the REAL names, which vary by the route and/or the target of the cyberattack. The key scary "fun fact" is that these attacks are evolving every single day. This site (iSecure on YouTube) is a great place to learn all about it.
By the way, Sophos is the security product that I have been using for the past 5 years. Last month, on a flight from Boston to SFO, I sat next to a woman who had a "SOPHOS" logo on her phone and we chatted. She is from the UK and was recently transplanted here, with her family, as a SOPHOS employee. She was surprised that I knew about their company. I was surprised that they historically have spent virtually NO MONEY on marketing in the US. I love their products.
I also happened to run across Norse Corporation, which tracks worldwide cyberattacks. They have a very pretty "LIVE" map of these cyberattacks and I follow them on Twitter. I use Hotspot Shield Elite for my computer, tablet and phone. I started using 1Password after my laptop got lost at a security checkpoint for a terrifying "moment" a few years ago! AND I do REGULAR BACKUPS with SuperDuper (because it is BOOTABLE) after the crash of my hard drive a year before THAT! (I felt very persecuted by the Computer Worst Case Scenarios Universe!) Yup, that was loads of fun, too. As the guy at the computer morgue said "Valerie, it's not "IF"... it's "WHEN."
So, these are a few places to get you started and keep you tracking the attackers. By the way, Sophos tools are designed for PC's and Macs and many of the Sophos tools are FREE. Happy Monday!!
Monday, July 7, 2014
The Truth About Sexual Assault on College Campuses: The Campus Sexual Violence Act (Campus SaVE Act) Was Passed on March 2013: The Numbers Are Abysmal. Could the Rate Of Discipline Be Relevant to Victims Reporting?
Infographic created by Workplace Answers
Sunday, July 6, 2014
Maya Angelou Recites Her Poem "And Still I Rise" - Her Voice Warms My Soul..... As My Southern Soul Sisters Would Say.... "Just Like Buttah!"
What a beautiful woman with a magical spirit, who overcame such atrocities and eventually emerged, her self and her voice intact. She has been an inspiration to men and women and children, everywhere. Just the sound of her voice spreads warm syrup over my heart... every single time. Sharing this with you on a Sunday morning... hoping it warms your soul and you can share in her tenacious and joyful message... :)) As my Southern sisters would say "Just like buttah!!"
Sunday, June 29, 2014
This is a beautiful short animated film made by StoryCorps, about the conversation between two brothers who shared an evening of conversation. They and their 6 other siblings had survived a difficult childhood and had all become completely estranged from their parents. The narrator was the oldest brother who had been cast out of the family the night his father had discovered a love letter exchanged between his son and another guy... This son was literally abandoned in the forest... Somehow, he survived.
Years later, the phone rang...
This film gives us a glimpse into the unspeakable horror with which some children and teens are treated when their families discover that they are "gay" or "lesbian" or "bisexual" or "transgendered."
Reach out, be sensitive, be kind and be open. PFLAG is an amazing organization and this is an amazing animated short film. Thank you guys. May the dialogues begin... :))
Sunday, June 1, 2014
Elizabeth Bader presents "The Self of Peace" at the 2012 Self and Duality Conference (SAND) and describes how the issues of the self and identity are "front and center" in the mediation process. Over the course of her legal career, she observed the worst in people: greed, envy, destruction, entrapment in patterns of perpetuation of what people saw as "necessary" in the service of "the self." This coincided with a crisis in her own personal and professional life. She reflected on a prayer she had read: "Bless me into usefulness."
Ms. Bader began to study the work of others, including Peter Levine (in his work on the trauma of people) and Stephen Porges (in his work on neuroscience.) She learned that through disappointment, the human sense of "self" and "identity" shift in a definable, predictable manner. Disappointment creates the doorway in order to move past the "ego," (which is the limited sense of the self) in order to ever be able to come to any sense of compromise and resolution. "This cycle is what I eventually called the IDR cycle." (Inflation-Deflation-Resolution)
In the first stage, people are inflated (in parallel with the involuntary neurological response to danger "the optimism bias," which is the psychological correlate of the biological shift.) The second phase is one of deflation. The third phase is realistic resolution and recognition of truth. Impasse is the point at which both sides know that unless they get past this point, there will be no resolution (and what they ultimately seek; which is peace.) "Peace never happens because of another person." It happens when one surrenders to the truth of the situation and says to oneself "yes, the war is over. I finally have resolution." What a beautiful video. The video clip containing "Blessed Are the Peacemakers" by medicine music.com.au is the cherry on top! Thank you, Ms. Bader.